What tone of voice should you use with your dog?

When we talk with each other, it's often how something is said rather than the exact words that really conveys meaning. Dogs respond to this too, but even more to the tone of voice since they don't understand human language the same way. Dogs listen carefully to the tone, pitch and mood behind your words, which influences how they perceive your intentions and respond.

If you're calling your dog and feel frustrated or annoyed, your tone can unintentionally discourage them from coming, even if your words promise treats or rewards. Developing an awareness of how your tone affects your dog's behaviour is invaluable to strengthening your bond and improving communication.

How dogs hear your voice

Dogs primarily recognise specific words they've been trained to respond to, such as their name or commands like "sit" or "come". However, most of our everyday conversation sounds more like background noise. What truly matters to dogs is the tone you use, which conveys your emotional state and intentions.

If your tone and words don’t match — for example, saying "come" with an irritated voice — your dog picks up on the tone more than the words. They also read your body language and facial expressions, combining all cues to assess the situation.

Using consistent words and tones

For your dog to understand commands or names effectively, consistency in both the words and the tone is crucial. For instance, if you vary the way you say your dog's name or frequently use different nicknames, it can confuse them.

Also, our everyday moods change our tone wildly. Dogs respond best to calm, friendly, encouraging tones, and positive reinforcement always outperforms punishment-based approaches. A rushed or tense tone can discourage your dog, who doesn't understand it's not their fault.

Recommended tones for communicating with your dog

UK dog behaviour experts in 2025 recommend using different tones suited to the context:

• Low-pitched, calm voice for commands and discipline: Use a steady, authoritative tone from your chest to show confidence and seriousness. For example, a low "No" can discourage unwanted behaviours without creating stress. A calm "Come" encourages obedient responses.
• High-pitched, cheerful voice for praise: Use an energetic, happy tone to reward positive behaviour and build enthusiasm. Saying "Good boy!" or "Well done!" in a high level vibrant voice reinforces positive connections.
• Soft, gentle, and reassuring tone for bonding: When comforting or building trust with your dog, use a soothing tone similar to how you'd calm a baby, with gentle cadence and low volume but slightly higher pitch.

Recognising and moderating your tone

Since emotions often colour our tone, recognising when you sound annoyed or stressed is the first step. Dogs quickly notice false tones because your body language won’t match insincere voice cues.

If you feel your tone might hinder communication, pause, take a deep breath, and consciously choose a neutral or encouraging voice before calling your dog. This practice, though requiring some effort initially, helps your dog respond more positively over time.

Summary of tone use for dogs

Using these tone variations improves communication, reduces confusion for your dog, and fosters a happy, relaxed relationship. Always remember that patience and positive reinforcement create the best learning environment.